Slept Together & Now He's Avoiding You?

want FAST answers on what to doin your relationship?My eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him" is availablefor you to download right now, and you can bereading it in a matter of minutes...Which means getting answers quickly to yourmost pressing questions.Answers to questions such as:-What to say to him when you've been going outfor a few weeks or months, spending allyour time with each other, and sleepingtogether... and then he suddenly isn't sure if hewants a relationship, or tells you he isn't"ready". (Go through the 5-step process startingon page 163)-You've been going out for severalmonths or longer, and he tells you that he justdoesn't feel it for you anymore, or that he lovesyou but he's not "in love" with you. (Whatever youdo, do NOT make the mistake that I explain indetail on pages 103-107)-What it means if a man pursues you and actsvery "into you" until you sleep together, and thenhe mysteriously PULLS AWAY or becomes distant, andis not as interested in you as he was before. Whydoes this happen and how can you avoid it? (Pages47-50)My eBook will show you exactly how to deal withall these unfortunately common and frustratingsituations that come up - and how toquickly turn them around and get your relationshipback on track where your man can't wait to spendmore and more time with you.If you haven't read my eBook yet, or you don'tknow exactly what to do in these situations above,it's time you stopped wasting your precious timeand energy and made sure your relationship givesback to you the way it should.Don't keep GUESSING or pretending that you knowwhat it is that makes your man wildwith excitement at the thought of creating anamazing, loving and lasting relationship with you.Too many women make the mistake of thinking thatthe man they're with feels the same way they do,and will want a relationship- when it takes theright kind of woman to truly INSPIRE a man towant to love and commit on a deep and intimatelevel.It's time you learned what works with men, and howyou can have the man in your life see you clearlyand feel intensely attracted to the woman you are.My eBook is more than 260 pages of insightsinto the male mind, tips and answers about yourmost pressing dating and relationship questions,and stories and specific examples of what to sayand do in the situations where too many women seetheir relationship needlessly fall apart.Learn how to have your man see you as theone and only woman who "gets it", and who he wantsto be with forever.Did you know that the most common way womenaccidentally "derail" their great new relationshipis when they feel like things are getting closeand they ask their man where he sees theirrelationship going? There's no surer way to trigger what I call aman's "Withdrawal Response." This is where he will instantly switch frombeing open, affectionate and excited at thethought of being around you... To then not calling and acting indifferent orcompletely uninterested in you. Have you ever seen a man suddenly withdraw thisway? And did it make you wonder what in the worldwas going on with him? Well, did you know that a man can have thiskind of instant "withdrawal response" even if youjust had sex for the first time a few days ago? Don't put yourself, or what could be a greatfuture relationship, in jeopardy this way. In this email I'm going to cover HOW and WHENto talk to a man about what you want once you'vebeen "dating" and things are getting to that moreserious place with your heart, mind, and body. If you don't know how to talk aboutwhat you're feeling and what you're looking forin a man and a relationship from the very start,then you're doomed to make the mistakes that pushgreat men away. Don't risk getting hurt or screwing up apotentially great relationship with the rightman because you didn't take the time to know andunderstand how men really think about and connectwith women to start lasting relationships. It would be great if it was as easy as youasking a man how he feels... and him saying, "I love you and I want to be with you." But the reality is that if a man isn't alreadycoming to you and saying these things, and youwant a relationship with this man... then youneed to know how to do 2 things:1) Get him to the place where he's FEELING thisway in the first place (wanting you to be hisgirlfriend or more)2) Start the conversation about what's going onbetween you in a way that will make him feelexcited and INSPIRED about the future with you,instead of uncertain and RESISTANT I'd like to show you how both of these thingswork... Have you ever admitted your feelings to a manonly to have it backfire on you? Perhaps he was a friend that you started beingphysical with, but your feelings for him grew eachtime you got together until you couldn't take itanymore... and blurted out everything you werefeeling. But then he got really "weird" on you and begantelling you that he didn't want to "ruin yourfriendship" or maybe he didn't want to end uphurting you? You knew the two of you could be really goodtogether, if only he would open up and stop beingso afraid. Right? And you wondered what you could do to get backthe closeness you felt... because ever since youcame clean about how you felt, your relationshipdidn't feel the same like it did before. It's an all-too-common situation. I received an email question from a readergoing through the exact same thing. I think you might find what she's going throughfamiliar:>>Question From A Reader:I purchased your e-book last night and have beenreading it. Wow! But I admit I skipped to someparts to get to others that I thought I neededto read first...and now I'm going back to readthe entire thing. I wanted to share something withyou first that struck me.I have made the mistake of admitting to a friendthat I have feelings for him - more than afriendship. We have been intimate with each otherabout 3 times. Everything was fine until Imentioned my feelings to him. I wasn't asking himfor a relationship but he took it that way. I havesince then been pouring my heart out to him andpretty much looking insane.Is there any way to save it? I know he hasfeelings for me. Please help...and tell me how to reverse thedamage I have done.Thanks so much>>My Response: WAKE UP GIRL! I've got to slap some sense into you for yourown good and because I want to help. There's nothing to "save" or to "fix." Here's what's happening... Your fears have taken the steering wheel withyour emotions... which in turn is driving thebehavior that your guy is responding negativelyto. Think about how your own mind works for aminute. There's a simple formula I want you toremember:Fear --> Negative Emotions --> Negative Behavior Fear leads to negative emotions and thoughts. Negative thoughts and emotions lead to negativeand insecure behavior. Why am I telling you this? Because you've stopped being conscious of andchoosing all of your behavior. Your negative emotional reactions are at thecontrols and have you acting "insane" as you putit. But I'm also sharing this with you because themore you can stay aware of how your mind createsyour reality and environment, the more CONSCIOUSand AWARE you can become. Which in turn will let you take back thesteering wheel in your life... with your friends,family, men, everyone. But let's stick to men for now. Go to Chapter 5 of my 2nd Edition e-book,"Catch Him & Keep Him", and read about theEmotional Gap, and read about "Setting YourselfApart from Other Women." There are some critical keys in here for youthat will help you change how he's reacting toyou and get him to open up, with what's reallylittle change or effort on your part.Your situation is the WORST possible kind ofuphill battle a woman can have with a man earlyon. It's a BIG NO-NO. Actually, it's THE big NO-NO in the earlydating stage. So what is it? It's when a woman has little more than a"physical attraction" and connection with a man,but tries to use it as the foundation for tellinga man that he should want a more intimate andreal relationship. Rarely do I give rules, but there's an absoluteRULE when it comes to men that I want you to know. Here it is: DON'T EVER try and start things with a man at acasual and purely physical level if you EVER wantthe option for something more meaningful andlong-term in the future. Sure, you can go from a committed relationshipwith a man to something more "casual" later. For a man, that's relatively easy. But it ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE to go from the"friends-with-benefits" situation to a deep,fulfilling, intimate and lasting situation. Men don't work this way, like it or not. Period. End of story. I could go into all the psychological andbiological reasons why... but I don't have timehere right now. The point is, if you base your connection witha man on the Physical connection you have - thenno matter how much "potential" you think there isfor a deeper relationship, a man won't be thinking"relationship" with you. He'll simply be enjoying the physicalconnection you share, with little or no thought ordesire to explore a relationship. Which means, you don't want try to GET A MANBACK with just Physical Attraction and sex either,if you're trying to rekindle an old flame. It's a dead-end street. You'll end up putting yourself out there andsharing yourself, and ultimately feelunappreciated and even taken advantage of whenwhat you've been doing with a man physicallydoesn't "translate" into the relationship you'relooking for. Here are the first few things you need to doin your situation...1) GET TO KNOW YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU'RE AFTER You said you "made the mistake of admittingyou had feelings for him." It's NOT a mistake to share your feelings witha man. It IS a mistake to share your feelings with aman too early and in a negative context. You set yourself up for failure because youwere tolerating a situation that just wasn'tworking for you. You were sleeping with a man whoyou knew wasn't "feeling" it for you yet, but youdid it anyway. Instead of being open with yourself about whatYOU are truly after, you pursued some kind of"friends with benefits" strategy to get thingsmoving. Which automatically put you in a kind of"Pursuit Mode" with this guy, so that he's doingthe choosing instead of who SHOULD be doing thechoosing - YOU. That's why you're freaking out. You thought you could handle it. But then your feelings snuck up on you. And now you're sitting around remembering whatyou really want with a man and what you reallyVALUE. A total "disconnect" from what's reallyhappening. No wonder you're acting a little "insane." Your expectations are COMPLETELY out of linefor what you're ACTUALLY doing with this guy. It's time to stop creating situations in yourlife that you KNOW won't make you happy orcomfortable - even if they feel good in themoment.2) FIND YOUR PERSONAL STANDARDS & REQUIREMENTS...AND THEN STICK TO THEM Starting things with a man in this "casual sex"way is not only a SURE-FIRE way to ruin your oddsof creating something more meaningful in thefuture... But more importantly, getting into a "casual"situation with a man you might want to date hasa VERY HIGH potential to make you FEEL AWFUL. So... Unless you're 1 out of a hundred thousand womenwho gets "swept off her feet" by a perfect manwho wants exactly what she does, and can read hermind to boot... You're going to have to start asking yourself:what are your needs from the relationship? Not what you're accepting or tolerating orhoping to get from a man because you think youreally love or want him. Think about it. I'll give you a minute... Most women I know who are casually dating havea set of UNCONSCIOUS REQUIREMENTS about thesituation. But they rarely, if ever, communicate thoserequirements to the man they're with - let aloneare honest with themselves about what they REALLYWANT. So they end up in a situation that is anythingbut what they were looking for. Here's a few of these "must-haves" that womenoften aren't honest about at the start:-That any man they're involved with in any wayisn't dating or still involved with another woman-That he's open and ready to explore a seriousrelationship once they get to know each other-That he shares some of the same values andpriorities in his life that she does - or can atleast appreciate and support her values What if what you value is love and connectionand what he values is freedom and adventure? See any area for conflict and confusion aboutwhat's important if these two people got together? Interesting... So how in touch are you with your REQUIREMENTSto feel good when it comes to men and dating? And how do you communicate these to a man? Do you do it indirectly through frustration andanger that your requirements aren't being met, anddo it AFTER THE FACT? Or do you do it directly and in a positivecontext as things are getting started, so you'rein sync from the get-go? Remember, communicating and sticking to yourstandards shows a man that you know what you wantand you won't settle for less.IMPORTANT: This means being willing to leave ifthe situation is NOT fitting in with your needsand values. The amazing thing is, most women who do thisinitially fear that they're losing the man theyhad... But end up finding that the man they had goesaway, only to be replaced by the same man who'snow "stepping up" and ready for a realrelationship. Oftentimes you have to risk having nothing, inorder to get everything.3) RADICALLY REJECT BEHAVIOR THAT DOESN'T MEETYOUR STANDARDS I know you have feelings for the guy - why elsewould you be sleeping with him? But you weren't "real" with yourself about yourfeelings and you definitely weren't upfront aboutwhat your expectations were, because you wereafraid of that awful thing: REJECTION. When we're in a negative situation with someonein our life and we are STUCK, we're stuck for areason. We're getting something out of it. Here's what you're getting out of the "casual"thing that you had going on with a guy untilthings turned sour - You had an easy and rejection-free "in" withhim by going along with the friends-with-benefitsthing. It feels so much safer and easier, than say,telling the guy UPFRONT (before you get toophysically and emotionally vested) what you reallywant and need. You've got to be clear and direct with a manthat where things are headed are not where youwant to be... before it goes there. And do it in a way that doesn't accept theBEHAVIOR, not THE MAN. Think strong and assertive, but warm and gentleat the same time. That's the KEY. Most men respond MAGICALLY to a woman who cancommunicate her needs in a comfortable and directway - without losing her cool completely. Why? Because it sends a strong UNCONSCIOUS signal toa man that the woman is in CONTROL of her life andher world. And there's another benefit... It WEEDS OUT the guys who are never going to(or just don't want to) get their act together. A large percentage of the time when you'reupfront, a man may shut down or even go away for awhile. But here's the best part... With the "good guys" that you probably WANT tobe with long-term, something FASCINATINGhappens... THEY COME BACK AROUND. And even better, they've done all the leg-workthemselves to be a better partner... in a way thewoman could have never fixed or convinced him todo no matter how hard she tried. Nice.HOW TO GET OUT OF NEGATIVE THINKING ANDDESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR You might be saying to yourself, "yeah, I getwhat you're saying and it makes sense, but why isit that I can't ever recognize that I'm letting aguy's bad behavior drive me crazy until it's TOOLATE?" "Why is it so hard for me to `get real' withmyself, and what's more, stick to my guns when itcomes to communicating what I need?" Maybe you know that your feelings get the bestof you and it's hard to "think straight" whenemotions are basically TAKING OVER. And you end up in relationships where a mantakes you for grated or worse, treats you shabbilyso you end up doing all the work to make it work. You end up feeling weak and unappreciated, andyou know that you deserve better, and that deepinside is that strong woman who wants to walk awayfrom it all... if only you didn't feel so muchFEAR. It's time to do something better for yourselfand LEARN how to overcome all that fear andanxiety about "fixing things" when it's notworking for you. It's not about fixing anything outsideyourself, but rather, fixing how you feel on theINSIDE so that you can be that honest, direct andrelaxed woman who tells a man exactly what shewants, and won't be too worried if it turns outshe needs to walk away from something that's nevergoing to work. It's all in my "Ready For Love" CD/DVD program,where I show you how to address your relationshipfear DIRECTLY...and OVERCOME and move past thesedestructive emotions. After years of study and experience,I've learned that the most intense problems thatseem to keep coming up over and over in somewomen's love lives centers around the way theyhandle their own fear and anxiety. (Men too, bythe way.) I'm talking about fears such as:-The fear of not being able to have a relationshipthat lasts-The fear of giving all of yourself to arelationship, only to have it disappear as the manpulls away and leaves, and you're left withnothing-Anxiety about him withdrawing emotionally, andmaking your relationship unhappy and unfulfillingfor you both-The fear about him wanting another woman, orleaving If you've experienced these fears, or foundyourself accidentally acting out and doing thingsthat push a man away and turn him off to you andyour relationship... then it's time you took yourlife into your own hands and stopped living infear of what could be. Your future love life is yours to create.P.S. Ever wish you knew how to give a man a "WOW"experience on the first meeting, date, or duringthe first few weeks so that he will NATURALLY wantto have a real, loving and committed relationshipwith you?Or how to have a man continue to feel that intensegut-level ATTRACTION for you once you get closeand you're spending tons of time together?Sometimes when a man gets close to you and gets toknow who you really are... it's not that hedoesn't love you... he just recognizes that thefeeling of ANTICIPATION and EXCITEMENT he used tohave isn't the same for him anymore.Unfortunately, some men mistake this as a signthat the relationship has run its course and it'stime for things to end.Don't let a man make this mistake with you justbecause he stopped having the EXPERIENCES he gotused to having with you when you were firsttogether.There are things that women who naturally andmagnetically attract men DO and SAY that make aman want to worship them, adore them and be withthem no matter what else is going on with hislife.Take the doubt and uncertainty about whetheryou're truly the right woman for your man to staywith out of his mind... in the most fun and simpleway.